Hi IL, you asked me to stop by your thread. I think I have already been too blunt to another poster tonight, so maybe I should just say this and call it a night.

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"I want a good M with H, but as I think over our past, I'm not sure that's possible. He has never nor does he ever plan to forgive me for stuff going back 20 years. He says he can't forgive people, never has been able to. His heart is so hardened and festering with resentment and unforgiveness that I'm not sure he can love himself or truly love anyone else."


Sweetie, if the man tells you up front that he WILL NOT forgive any persons......at all.....ever.....then how can you think about continuing? What would the M stand upon? You can't say love b/c where there is love....there has to be forgiveness. This man is too hard hearted. I just don't know what else to say b/c how can you get beyound not ever forgiving anybody? Don't see a lot of hope there.

I'll check back later,
Sandi



It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!