The fact that you are communicating and spending quality time with your H is admirable! So many of us here have such a long and hard road to travel in hopes of eventually ariving at the "best friends" stage again with our WAS. But you and H have made it to that stage, and it's obvious your H still loves you. Your patience, faith, and strength is an inspiration to me!
Me 40 WAH 43 T 4 years M 9 1/2 months stepson 9 H left 5/17/09
Montana,
I think we are at this stage because I have relied so much on my faith and have never really gotten angry. Not that I haven't had angry moments through this, but I have acknowledged and taken to heart my part in our sitch. Every day I pray that God will change me in a way pleasing to him and to my H.
I know exactly where you are at, with H just leaving last month. You are shocked, devastated and scared. Take heart. Db, pray and definitely realize that GAL is so very important.
When my H dropped the bomb, and then when he left, I wanted to change anything and everything about me to make him happy. I've learned that I need to be who I am, but change those things that have hurt him. Namely, I was so "busy" that he felt last. And honestly, I did take him for granted.
I will never make that mistake again, regardless of how our sitch ends up. We are not out of the woodwork by any means, but I have made my choice to be his wife forever. When he is here I am loving and focused on him. When we spend time together I stay in the moment and listen more than I talk.
Keep the faith.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
