Why not?

[AJM]

Hurting is part of it. Sucks, but there it is. You are doing very very well.

He could tell me that he gives one iota of a sh*t about trying to see if there is any chance we can work things out AND/OR give some/any indication that he has an inkling of an idea that we (he and I) have dealt with absolutely nothing in any substantive way and that we are all living in limbo. That a real D will be a brutal departure from what this is now, especially for our children.

Hasn't he "told" you that? Not with words. Do you think he comes back for the kids alone? Seriously? Not likely based on his behavior :o)

One of the things I think you are really doing well is your soul searching. You really are soul searching and doing well. Don't get too hung up on the past, but it helps to know who you are, right?

You come across as a wonderful woman. You come across as a person who is really making great strides to grow as a woman. I'm proud of you. I know it sucks, but you really are doing well. Your comment that you are the woman that anyone would want is a real treasure. You are. But I will point out that you still want some things in return - the time with the kids. I can relate, but it stands out as something that is causing you resentment. Getting out from between him and the kids is a positive step - it is. But expecting him to want to spend time with them at this point might be a stretch. I think he does, but he needs to spend more for the kids sake.

You are really a fabulous person. You are really growing. You are that woman that anybody would want to be with. Not that you want anyone else to be with you, but....

Keep working on you. You know what you need to work on with you. Don't expect him to live up to your wants right now. That will come later...when he's ready. Will you be there when he is (that is your next question right?) - I think so. I think you need to keep doing what you're doing and stop thinking that he's whoring around - he may or may not be, but truth is you don't know. That's where you are projecting if you ask me - from something unresolved perhaps?

Keep up the good work. You are a fabulous and wonderful woman and are really growing. Don't miss the opportunity for you!

AJ

P.S. Sushi. I can understand that is a bit odd. Truth is I'm glad you said it. I didn't want to make you uncomfortable in not inviting him. Hopefully you know a few good places. LA hasn't been my home in a long time and restaurants may have changed since.