Anyone else here have a H who says "I love you, I just don't love our relationship"? He's never said the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" thing. Anyone have any interpretations to share?
Yes. He is saying this because he has an addictive relationship with his therapist. Period. You keep looking for other explanations, and have asked the question fifteen ways from Sunday, EA, but that's your answer.
Earlier, you said:
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I think focusing on the EA simply isn't going to get me anywhere positive anyway...so I'm going to just move past it.
It's great to "move past it" as it relates to your OWN behavior, goals, and self-improvement. That's what DBing is all about. But if you're looking for explanations of why he's doing what he's doing, you need not look any further than the affair.
It's a drug. And until you separate the addict from the source of his addiction, he's going to keep behaving this way.
