Yes. And, as hard as it is, you must have some boundaries and she must show you some respect.

I just went through it with S6. He had the worst tantrum ever (H just left after having just been hanging out upon returning from a month away)...I felt so much for him, of course the separation is impacting him. But, he can't tell me to shut up or punch me, you know?

This is hellishly hard and I am right here with you.