Am supposed to be getting ready for work so I haven't read the last ten or so posts properly.
Just wanted to say H and I have been separated since Dec 2007 and we still haven't sorted our crap out. Sorry to say, but four months is nothing when your wife feels that you were abusive. As for your daughter, I haven't gotten to that age yet (my is is almost 8), so I can't comment there.
Gotta run
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe