Thank you for responding.Snodderly...but it sure does feel like they are having a really good time.....I just cant believe he is doing this, I dont care about me so much anymore...but I do about our daughter...it feels so unfair and yes I know life is unfair...but it makes me so mad......he never works.....she once in a while does....come and go as they please.....we never existed to him.....how much my heart hurts right now....you always give me good sound advice and your opinions....thank you do much