SP, Your W is very insecure. Think about that. Lot's of clues.
Granted, so? If I had to "guess" (and that's all I can do) the WAW puts their "faith" in all sorts of "fantasies" starting way before the 'bomb' was dropped (I can get my own house, be rid of H, have an A with a romantic OM who will love me, I will have peace, I can do whatever I want, life is short, so-and-so did it and is better off, etc). The LBS has little chance of prevailing despite becoming the proverbial "emotional' rock after months of recovery from the trauma of the "bomb". This is especially true if the WAW has a very broken value system, including not viewing marriage and family as "sacred" and/or a "commitment", coming from a messed up childhood, etc. There are only a very few "sitches" that are savable despite the LBS saving themselves. In most cases the WAW will not take ownership of one iota of their behavior.
