Good points. But I am doing things for myself. I just thought that I might be seeing some positives lately is all. It might be nothing. But at least it isn't where its been for months.
In the mean time, I am improving my poker skills again. Thats always fun. And I get my girls again tomorrow night. YAY!!!
W is just really becoming friendly and kind again. She isn't reaching out R wise or anything, but she is much more friendly. That gives me some bit of hope if I keep doing my own thing and just being friendly.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hopefully perspective is kicking in. I know everyone is bored about hearing about my W. I find her fascinating and mysterious to be honest. lol.
The fact that I can't reason with her is very intriguing. I think the A must be dying down though for her to start being friendly again. Just a hunch. She was always very angry and resentful while in the heat of it.
Who knows.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Actually it sounds like she is being friendly because it means you will bend over backwards to accomodate her and take the girls so she can go out without needing a babysitter. *shrugs* Expect the worst.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
For anyone left wondering I have my first counseling appointment Monday June 15th at 5:30.
I finally did it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Nothing??? I finally have a confirmed counseling appointment and nothing from yall??? By the way, I lasted in the poker tournament 2 hours. I did ok. Not great, not horrible. I was about average.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Nothing??? I finally have a confirmed counseling appointment and nothing from yall??? By the way, I lasted in the poker tournament 2 hours. I did ok. Not great, not horrible. I was about average.
Kevin
That's so awesome, I was just sitting here, ignoring my miserable tantrum-ing and distraught child wondering if you had finally made your appointment...
WTF Kevin, do you think we're all just sitting here watching your thread?
Sorry, I'm in my own pain. I'm not getting much action on my thread and I just can't believe your bitching about not getting props for doing something you need to do for YOU.
I agree. You've had tons of folks here helping you with your sitch and as usual, in one ear and out the other. Some folks ahve dropped and some have stayed.
Big deal, you made an appointment with a C. So did I for my kids and I wasn't throwing a ticker tape parade.
I read through your thread today and it just amazed me to read (and it shouldn't) that you're still 1 GAZILLION percent focused on your W and not focusing on you. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe your W has had a change of mind or maybe she is just leading you on to believe that she did. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. But seriously, you do one or two things and you want to erase all the mistakes that we tried to coach you from doing.
I don't know man. If she turns the tables again on you and cranks up the D papers and refiles, you're gonna drop like a rock and you'll defintely be on your own.
You made the post that you're going to really start DBing hard now. That's like a slap in everyone's face that you were just going through the motions and nodding but not taking our advice to heart.
