In my situation it's true that I wasn't as attracted to him physically as I should have been in the beginning. I'm long past the fog and I still feel that same way. I was attracted to him- but I wasn't attracted the way I should have. I didn't really enjoy ML with him- he chased me and the harder he chased the more I felt like a sex object. So I was a withholder. I've learned alot since then about men and their connection to ML and I've changed. I'm not like that in my marriage now.
He was a good person- I loved him- and I was very in love with him when we first married- it's just that eventually he took so many deposits from my love bank he just killed it- except the fact that I do love him as a person and as the father of my kids- and I don't wish bad on him.
Kitty,
It really sounds like you and my wife are saying the same things
I don't want to interupt Stuck's thread so can you offer what might have made a difference in my thread?
Thanks
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
