In my situation it's true that I wasn't as attracted to him physically as I should have been in the beginning. I'm long past the fog and I still feel that same way. I was attracted to him- but I wasn't attracted the way I should have. I didn't really enjoy ML with him- he chased me and the harder he chased the more I felt like a sex object. So I was a withholder. I've learned alot since then about men and their connection to ML and I've changed. I'm not like that in my marriage now.
He was a good person- I loved him- and I was very in love with him when we first married- it's just that eventually he took so many deposits from my love bank he just killed it- except the fact that I do love him as a person and as the father of my kids- and I don't wish bad on him.
