I was just about to post something similar to Coach....
SP in your last post, you quoted WAW as saying: "I wouldn't have objected to my parents divorcing if it made either ONE of them EVER told me that they loved me or made me feel like they did. We all live with repercussions from our childhood; I live with feeling unlovable."
This is some truly deep insight into your WAW. Her parents NEVER told her that they loved her? No wonder she is messed up. How horrible is that? Also no wonder she did not want kids. She was afraid to, because she had no parenting example.
SP - I hope you take a good deep look at this clue she has given you. Not that it can solve anything, but it is definitely a direct link into her deepest feelings and fears.
And I do actually agree with her. Having divorced parents who love you and make sure you are taken care of and made to feel loved, is much better than having married parents who never make you feel loved and more specifically, make you feel UNloved.
