Just to clarify... I'm not guaranteeing or even guessing that you will win your marriage back.
Your kids, though. They are yours forever and they will always look to you for approval and guidance. If you carry yourself with dignity, treat them with genuine kindness and love... really listen to them and help them through life's difficulties... How can they NOT love their father? Eventually, your W's anger will likely cool off when she realizes that it is for her own good. And then perhaps she will be able to see you through kinder, more open eyes.
You can't be desperate or impatient. This isn't going to be quick.
I have a couple of GFs, sisters, whose parents split up when they were just entering high school. They HATED their father for leaving. Today, they are in their late 30s. They now hang on his every word and yearn for time with him.
Your kids will come around. Just wait out those nasty early/mid teens! And stay the course with your personal development, for yourself first, and then for them.
