I believe being in the house with someone who had already decided our M was over was counter-productive. I also believe for DR to work, in most cases the WAS has to have an element of doubt in their mind as to whether they want to re-commit to a M. They want an A, it may be MLC, an emotional detachment from their spouse or any number of reasons why they walk away. But in some cases they are prepared to go to C, seperate for the right reasons, while the LBS betters themselves by DR'ing, GAL etc etc.
In my case and which is mentioned in DR, some spouses decide they really have had enough 'die hards' I think Michelle called them, and decide to call it a day.
This is what has happened in my case. I can tell you though, three great things have happenedd to me - 1. I now have a lovely R with my children which I never had before 2. I have re-connected with my own family and their support has been terrific 3. With all of you here I have learnt and will continue to learn about myself (of which I feel I am a better person), and have learnt about relationships, the way women feel and I hope with what I have learnt will make me a more giving, thoughful and caring person.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
