Something about an apartment search....and a question from a GF...when are you going to tell him..."he knows..doesn't want to do anything about it"..."said we will talk when I am ready"
It's easy giving advice when one is not living it but I think it is time to make a strong stand. Don't go apesh!t on her but sit her down, tell her what you know. Tell it is unacceptable. Tell her she gets you, or him but not both. This could wind up NOT going in your favor but a weak stance at this point, I think, will get you nothing, just more limbo. Now it is clear, that is what has been happening. I would bet the affairs have been going on for some time and she is just playing both sides of the fence, keeping you in limbo. As long as you stayed blind, she can get her outside stuff and keep you for security.
You can try to get to a point where lying is not necessary for her but don't think for a second you are going to get whole truth. Maybe not even half the truth.
DO THIS COMPLETELY SOBER!!!!!!
Do not let booze be involved in your talk.
Everything I have read says it's time to lay it down. She can have you or she can't but having both will not do.
OK weird observation, how can your wife come home and make love to you when she is looking elsewhere? My wife said the cheating woke her up, made her horny...she actually justified stuff saying I should be glad her interest in other guys makes her want to have sex with me...you might be in the same boat. Hey! your chocolate is in my peanut butter...
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
