Me too. Finding that stuff is sickening and gets your heart pounding crazily. I can only think that she is trying to let you down easy...and it makes me even more nauseous to think that it's an act....or she really is conflicted. I know what I'd do if it were me...(and I did)...I tell her to get out. I'd confront her definitively with the threat of losing me.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer