Is the message from friend important? If not H can contact his friends.
Ask yourself this question:
"Is it better to avoid H and have him miss me, or keep doing things that allows him to project his resentment on me?"
DO NOT CALL MIL!!!! AVOID talking about R to MIL. This is also pressure on your spouse. I would avoid talking about your R issues with almost everyone. Find a good friend or two and that is it. They should be good listeners and empathetic. Counselors and posting here are fine.
H thinks about you as much as you think about him. Give him space to be with his thoughts. Work on YOU. Post you list of goals. Do things that make YOU happy.
HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
