Looking for some ideas/insight - please help.

[Sugar and Spice]

X67. This is such a hard position to be in. What Blindsided said is SO TRUE!

This woman will be in your life no matter what you do, whether you take him back or not, she will be part of your life. You just have to decide what part of your life your H is going to be in.

You have to decide what you can and can't live with. Set up a full transparency plan with your H and start working on the R NOW. He will need to cut off any contact with her that does not directly relate to the baby and its needs. Any other contact should not be tolerated. Set the stage during pregnancy for what will come afterward. If you want to stay with him then you need to be a team and make all decisions about this child and the extent of your involvement together.

Speaking only for myself here, this will test you everyday and I'm not going to lie and say its easy. Its not, but its not impossible through setting boundaries and making plans. So you can use my sitch as a "How Not-To" manual for that one.

If you don't start trying to heal now and putting some of these things into practice now, when that baby gets here, things that are confused now, will only get more confusing. The stronger the two of you can be together, then the better you will be able to face the challenges ahead.

What does he want to do with regard to this OW and the baby?