To be honest I do not anywhere else to go, so going back to the marital home is the best choice for me at this time.
I am fully aware of the children's upheaval as they are my prime concern. I feel comfortable in my decision to return as they are going to my W's parents home which is just around the corner. We used to house sit during the summer in the past, and the children have their own rooms with toys there. This is not a problem for them at this time.
Also, when I have them on weekends they will be returning to their own home, so I believe with the situation at the moment I think it would be better for them to be coming back to their own rooms, rather than a flat that they may feel uncomfortable about.
This is not some sort of 'get back at my W' situation, it merely allows me to come home, it keeps the overheads down, and it keeps a degree of normality for the children.
I agree it is not an easy decision. The easy decision would be for me to try and find a flat, and to appease my W in the process. There are too many pro's against con's not to return, I just hope I am making the right decision for my children.
Thank you for the Cognitive Dissonance link, I will check it out.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
