I thought about Antlers talking with the kids, and think it's OK as long as they are doing most of the talking. There is a fine line between letting the kids have a say and getting them too involved in matters that two adults should be handling with maturity and reason.
Antlers: Have you and your W worked out a schedule with regard to visitation? Two weeks is a very long time.
I know that you *heard* that you W was planning on bringing the kids to the grandparents house for 2 weeks, but this is HERESAY. You cannot assume that it's true until you tell her that you heard this information and get verification from her on it.
Overall, expectations with regard to visitation, holidays, and vacations need to be set before either of you make any plans.
You need to come to an agreement with your W so the kids don't have to be dragged through the undercurrent of push/pull!
Lucky
I'll talk with the kids when they come back over, but my daughter is so anti-dad that I don't know how much good it'll do. I want to handle things with my wife with maturity and reason...but I don't know if she's still 'fogged out' or what?
Things have been goin OK with that, as they are with each of us 50% of the time, respectively. We haven't had a situation like this come up until now.
i know she will have to verify it for it to be true...I'm just saying that 'if' it were true...I would be OK with it.
We need to communicate with each other more/better, I suppose, regarding big things...like vacations.
She thinks the kids are fine. She doesn't believe this separation is having an effect on them at all.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
