Antlers, You are getting good advice. Here's my perspective - your W is telling you how the kids feel - stand up to that and ask her why she feels that way? You have recieved validation from you kids they want to go, they see your changes and she is not going so there won't be the tension she is forecasting. This is the hard part about being friends and discussing things that you don't agree with. See if you can maybe shorten your trip to show you can bend and are taking some of your W's concerns into account. Love yourself first - you probably could use the vacation and the time with your kids. Then without compromising your values show some compassion. This would be leading thru this opportunity. You can handle it. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
