Would it make sense to talk to the kids about how long they want to be away and include them in the plan-making? This is about THEM, not her.
Lucky, what do you think?
Antlers, I think this should really be more about what you and your kids want to do with your time together.
The length of time sounds like it is out of the norm and maybe should be compromised some. You need to be honest with yourself about that. AND, I think you should make a mutual agreement about how long is ok for both of you. Then, you both feel respected.
If I told my son where we were planning on going, he would love it and would want to go. My daughter has already been influenced by my wife, and would say 'no'...even though she would love it after we got to where we were planning on going. Yeah...it's about the kids and I...but evidently, my wife has to be taken into consideration also. We've always taken trips this long in the past, but we haven't been gone this long since the separation. I really am honest, not only with me...but with my wife too. Mutual agreements about how long is OK for both of us sounds good to me. I want to show compassion, respect, and value for her and for myself...more than anything else.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
