trusting, something that helps me is remembering that I am not necessarily the cause of their bad moods. Maybe I am, but maybe I am not. There's a big world out there that can set them off! I also notice that my H can turn on his charm and be sweet as pie (even to me) when other folks are around but when it's just me and him we can live in total silence. It used to be silence thick with tension. Now it's just silence. I try to look at it as 'at least he feels comfortable enough around me to be how he feels'.
Your hide will get thicker. Think of it as water rolling off a duck. You get to be the duck. Gliding smoothly across the water but paddling like mad under the surface.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
