LuckyGirl, you said "they need time to grow warmer feelings and trust in you" regarding the kids. We've been separated for going on 4 months. My son and I are doing OK, but my daughter and I are not doing OK...she has no respect for me, and she is mean and hateful towards me...just like her mom is/has been being! This has only been since the separation too! My wife is not doing me any favors with the kids...it doesn't work with my 11 y/o son...but it works with our daughter. My wife told me that a parent shouldn't use a kid against the other parent...that they shouldn't try to turn a kid against the other parent. I will not do that...but she does! She was never like this in the past! How long is it supposed to take for them, daughter especially, "to grow warmer feelings and trust in you"?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
