Why not?

[AJM]

No impulsive moves is the wisest thing you'll say or do if you ask me.

All H had to do was show me that the R mattered to him, that he was paying attention to me and my life and my struggles, that he was there to lift me up, not compete with me. You've got a LOT to work with.

Really? What would he do that would show you he cares? What have YOU done to show him you care? Those are two really important questions you should be able to answer.

I think you're a long way off from making a decision to divorce and sticking to it. I can say it sucks to watch husband kick you out of bed to be with the kids, but I can relate and can say that you DID want him to have a closer relationship with the kids. Are you complaining about that or just venting in general?

What I see is that you are starting to formulate what a marriage would look like for you. What a husband would be like for you. What you would be like for a husband. What you bring to the table so to speak. THAT my dear is progress. That is the subtle kick in the pants I needed to remind me to figure out me as well. I deeply and with the utmost humility thank you for that.

As for sushi - yes I am planning to make a trip sooner rather than later. The two of you are welcome if he's in town. Oh, and if we can figure out the story line properly. Long lost brother? War buddy? (that was supposed to make you laugh).

Keep up the good work. You really are growing and doing very well even in your venting.
AJ