I have been reading the book "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. Do yourself a favor and read it. It's amazing and eye opening. I think it's helping me see some new directions I can go for myself.
One thing I have decided is that I have no business being let loose on the unsuspecting men of this world. I don't know how the heck to get to know someone, how to strike up a conversation with a complete stranger via email or over the phone (God forbid...that scared the beejeesees out of me) so I'm thinking I need to give up that idea. Who knows....maybe someday I'll be fortunate enough to gain a backbone and grow a personality. Until then, I'll continue to do what I'm doing...living vicariously through my friend's and family and their adventures.
Wake up call coming early to get Marc to summer school....oh, such an exciting life......*sigh*.....:)
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Someone is gong to have to come beat you with a very large wet noodle!
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One thing I have decided is that I have no business being let loose on the unsuspecting men of this world. grin I don't know how the heck to get to know someone, how to strike up a conversation with a complete stranger via email or over the phone (God forbid...that scared the beejeesees out of me) so I'm thinking I need to give up that idea. Who knows....maybe someday I'll be fortunate enough to gain a backbone and grow a personality. Until then, I'll continue to do what I'm doing...living vicariously through my friend's and family and their adventures.
Blah, blah, blah, blah.....
For starters. you've made a lot of friends here, so I call BS! And your friend from the Waffle House! So cut it out!
A lot of us are scared about meeting someone and getting to know them. I mentioned it in my thread yesterday or the day before. But I have decided that I am going to force myself to do it. For one thing, I have a feeling the person you are meeting is having the very same fears! I once read a book, I don't remember anything but the title, "Feel the Fear, and Do it Anyway".
Hey Mish.. I read your posts and it reminded me of 'framing', you ever heard of that? Its a C thing.. framing and reframing yourself and others.
I agree with Jeff..WTH!? You say you cant talk to men (um...2 1/2 hours in the parking lot with CG?).. you have no personality...uh...yes you do, a heck of one!! You need to reframe yourself in your mind and see yourself as you actually ARE, not the person you thnk you are (that the negative part of you thinks you are).
You CAN speak to men. You are more than able to make conversation and friendship with strangers. You DO have a great personality.
See???? Hugs to you, xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm trying, really I am. Thank you all for the encouragement.
The realization hit me last night when I got an email that made me start examining how I interact with strangers. There is an obvious disconnect and I'm not sure how to get around that. Fear has to be the WORST four letter word in the English language. We live by fear, we die by fear. How could there be a curse word with more power than that? Hmmmm.......
Talking to CG is not the same as talking to a potential 'date'. There is no potential for anything more than the friendship I have with CG so there is no anxiety. Where there is any potential I freeze and stammer and become a total ball of nerves. It makes no sense to me, but it's something I'll need to deal with over time. That's why I realized I have no business trying to meet new people right now. I have too many underlying fears that need to be examined and put away.
Working....working.....working.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
