That's a great question. I think it's really what I've been coming to, although I haven't figured out why it is bothering me. The lack of distance.
In fairness, she did ask if she could bring it over and it is my son's. I don't have a problem with it, and I don't feel like a doormat. She's been respectful of my space in that sense.
No, my anger is something else. I don't yet know the source but I suspect some of it is to avoid feeling sad. Or other emotions not yet identified.
Still, it's not helpful. I've put it off for a while and my just need to feel it for a while. I'm prepared for that. Seems to be waning a little, but still angry. Speak to the MC alone this afternoon and I may float the idea of less time with her.
I have to keep in mind some of this may be related to depression as well. I can't discount that yet. I also can't discount that it's depression that is caused by her choice to separate starting when she started school.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."