Gonna Get Me A Mojo Hand

[AlexEN]

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Of course. But when are judging and catastrophizing, we are clinging to the rope because we think some how our being "better" is going to weigh in. It wont IMO. It is our booby prize. The best we can do, I think, is what Coach keeps espousing, love, keep working on ourselves, stop sizing up and judging the other person...

I have no where near mastered this, that is why I called it out because I want to scream too. He's BAD! And I'm GOOD! But, it isn't going to help me or my kids. Unless it compels me to take some positive action, which so far, it hasn't.
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To me the point is this. We're sure we're right. So what? It doesn't matter and to think it does makes things worse. To try to convince the WAS makes it that much worse still... So, yes, work on the other stuff because, as you pointed out, our desired outcome has no chance otherwise and we, as individuals, will not grow. To me that's the realization needed in order not to size up and judge and only then can the positive action begin...