Hey dudes and dudettes. let's remember that we too are clinging to some some statistical unlikelihood that we will get our spouses back.
I think it is time to focus on the care of the kids and positive action. Just sayin'. We all know why we are here and how much it sucks.
I thought the purpose of DBing was not to cling to that rope?
But, yes, our odds are very long... But, the difference is that the bet we're willing to make (each spouse "doing the work") is a better bet than the one the WAS is willing to make.
-AlexEN
Of course. But when are judging and catastrophizing, we are clinging to the rope because we think some how our being "better" is going to weigh in. It wont IMO. It is our booby prize. The best we can do, I think, is what Coach keeps espousing, love, keep working on ourselves, stop sizing up and judging the other person...
I have no where near mastered this, that is why I called it out because I want to scream too. He's BAD! And I'm GOOD! But, it isn't going to help me or my kids. Unless it compels me to take some positive action, which so far, it hasn't.
