I have been married 16yrs in July and I have 2 daughters ages 15 and 9.My wife is very controlling only due to the fact the she has been hurt so. I believe this her protection mechanism to guard against further pain. I had afair with exgf early on in marriage. This happened after my mom was murdered amd I felt my wife didnt console me at all. I made pitfall mistake in turning to exgf in time of sorrow which led to us sleeping together twice. I ended it as I said it wrong she forwarde letter to my house and my wife opened it. It didnt say what was going on but my w felt something was after a fw weeks wife met het and they talked. She told her Wife eveything. I left for a week. Wife said come home I said only if for right reasons. She said you have a daughter. Things were very rocky naturally after this. I knew it would take time for her but it never seemed like she forgave me. I never talked to exgf since not one time. I worked very hard to restore marriage and wife was in limbo. we had second child 5 yrs later. Sex was about 1 month and staarted to get even worst. 1-3/yr. I miss being married and really want my faimily back Im in counceling and he is a christian counselor. He believes I have a passive demeanor as opposed to my wife who is controlling. He said she picked me becuase her 1st husband was strong personality type. He started to get physical with her and she left before it got out of hand. He pushed her a couple of times and she left.The counselor said she felt like I was a safe pick and would be easy to control. I believe that to be true as Im very laid back. I know in my heart I still love her and want to fight for her but according to this site you have to kind of ignore them and work on yourself. That is what Im doing and want to be the best husband,father and friend that I can be!
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