Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[AlexEN]

Antlers,

I'm a little bit sketchy on your entire vacation sitch here, but I have some questions for you... First, is there a true economic cost to you changing your plans. Secondly, are you sure you aren't falling into old patterns by not being willing, despite your feelings about it (and no matter how "wrong" you may feel she is), to compromise?

Separately, and not to throw fuel on the fire, does the fact that she has had conversations with D about the trip imply that she knew more about the specifics than she let on... or could those conversations all have happened once the miscommunication came to light?

In any event, if there really isn't an economic cost of changing your plans, I think there is a way to compromise that wouldn't feel like "rolling over" to you...

-AlexEN