As usual, you handle it all so well. Your poor H sounds very foggy right now. I know what you mean, I worry that I will start hating H too, and I pray to be loving and forgiving. It also helps me that I really believe H is hurting himself more than any of us (although yeah he is hurting us too). Your H seems to be doing the same. The kids and I have gotten stronger and closer through this, though. Karen