A new thread, a new outlook.....

[PositivelyMommy]

So Kev, you asked her out. She declined and saw it as pursuing, that's why she has taken the opportunity to take a walk during your visits to Weeman. So now, you know what doesn't work. Don't ask her out, don't seem to be pursuing.

In fact, do a 180. Act as if you couldn't care less if she was there or not. You will NOT be thinking of her on her birthday. I'd say, don't even buy her a card as this small and innocent gesture could be blown out of all proportions by the pursued party. In fact, don't acknowledge her birthday in any way, no 'Happy Birthday' or anything. Just take Weeman out. It's Father's Day, that's all you need to think about. PULL WAY BACK!

As for visitation, I know DB Coach said not to push just yet. But sooner or later (maybe later) you need to bring it up. The reason being you are the boy's father and you have every right to see him 50% of the time.

What is your gut feeling? Why do you think she doesn't want you to see him so much? Because SHE doesn't want to see you so often? Because she thinks you will reduce your child support payments? What do you think her arguments are and plan a verbal reason when the subject comes up.

But alas, here is some hope. She has not filed for a D. She has not refused to see you at all. She has not verbally abused you or slander you in any way. These are all good things. Sometimes it's important to keep in mind what is going RIGHT.