I imagine its so hard to change old behaviors like that. Especially with a substance addiction. It has been such an emotional crutch for them that like a drug/alcohol counselor told me once when I was frustrated that exh didn't want to stop: The mere thought of your exh quitting his addiction for him is like standing in the woods naked. How scary, uncomfortable, and vunerable that makes him." Its terrifying to them at first.
Your H is learning. You keep taking care of you.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
