It helps me to see your sitch and how a relationship can be had after the financial settlement and the turmoil that goes with it has settled down. You're right in regard to me leaving the marital home in the first place, but my children were privvy to all the arguments that took place, therefore I felt I should move out to protect them. I could have forced my W out, but I did not want anymore disruption to the children, and they were the most important factor in my decision. As joint deed holdres I cannot see how she can keep me out but I will see what my rights are.
Thank you for identifying me sounding better. I am still in deep depression and still without work, but I am trying to do the right thing by the children as best I can.
Kev, what I find hard to fathom is the fact my W seems to be twisting the knife in me by threatening me with limited access to the children. Leaving tell tale signs (though she might be planting these herself) items that point to her being in a relationship, which is really screwing with my mind. Why be so crual when she is getting exactly what she wants?
I will not give up on our marriage, but at the moment I am nowhere on her list of priorities, in fact I believe she has moved on and is in a new R with her new lifestyle, though she is still very angry with me. I do not believe we will ever get back together and for my own piece of mind I have to believe this is the case, because I will never be able to move on if I keep thinking about re-kindling our R. I have to think about me and the children, and if anything comes out of us rebuilding a R over a long period of time, then so be it.
I agree with your last paragragh in the way she is acting, and I would love to see some form of re-action. For the last six months she has not wavered, she even told me two weeks ago she has definately made the right decision, totally focused.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
