PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[Can it work]

Hi PM,

I hope you're doing ok? It pains me to see someone so strong get som many emotional attacks thrust in their path. You seem to be coping in exactly the right way though. Not getting too confrontational and managing to stay calm throughout. Not only do you have the moral high-ground here, you also have the upper hand in any decisions pertaining to you and the kids. I'm not for a moment suggesting you use that advantage as a tool but I don't think your H has much of a leg to stand on here.

Anyway, he won't be around tomorrow because he had them for 24hrs. I am thinking, what about the fact that I have them all week? This dad is so fogged out. He really is a workaholic and really putting kids on back burner. I look at Can It Work and just think Weeman is SOOO lucky.

In response to this comment, I in turn think you are lucky to be the one able to make decisions for your kids. It's incredibly frustrating for me not to get to spend more time with Wee Man when I miss him so much. It seems that in any society the woman has the advantage when it comes to children. I do thank you for your praise though and I can't understand any father who doesn't want to spend every waking minute with his kids. Even now when I've found myself contemplating the possibility of finding myself finding someone else, I know that unless this person was 100% in love with Wee Man aswell, it would never work out in a million years. At the end of the day though, I know the perfect person for that job is my W. That's probably the main reason I want to work on my M now. I just can't see how anyone else can come close to sharing in the joy that is Wee Man other than my W.

He probably won't take it well. Oh well, I am detaching so much nowadays that I don't care very much what he thinks of me. I just need to stand up for myself and tell him not to lie to the kids. I can't control his behavior but I said my POV.

You were completely right to take this view. There's no excuse for him to lie to his kids. He needs to be told it whether he likes to hear it or not. Even if he thinks you are just being harsh with him, it will still make him stop and think about it for a moment. The only problem I can see is that he'll not want to change because of something you said in case he looks weak. It's maybe something you need to get him to accept on his own. The move back to your family will definitely help with that.

On a lighter note, how's the book coming on? I've not been at my writing for too long now. The weather's just been so great I've been outside gardening/cycling/running if I'm not working or looking after Wee Man. I'll get back to it soon though. I have a couple of assignments I need to submit for my course which I need to get finalised before sending. I'm not happy with one piece though and need to work on it a bit more. Never seems to be enough hours in the day though. Sleep is such an inconvenience! I could do so much in the time I spend in bed. Must say though, I do enjoy my sleep. What kind of guy would I be if I didn't?!?

Take care PM.

Kev X