WAW1 - Anticipation2

[markhaving probs]

My W now is starting to play hardball because things are not going her way.

She has been advised by her L NOT to allow me back into the marital home. She is worried I will not leave the home when the financial aspects are sorted out.

I will take my own legal advice, but as my name is on the deeds I cannot see how she can keep me from moving back.

In the past I have succumbed to her wishes and demands as hope for reconcilliation, but I am pretty sure now things are not going to be resolved, therefore my mindset has cahanged so that I can get a a fair financial settlement for me and my children so that I can start a new life.

I feel very sad it has come to this, in fact it is going to get worse before it gets better (for me). I believe my W dislikes me now even though I have not really done anything wrong, the reason she dislikes me is because I am now starting to assert some resistance. Whether I gain some respect back I don't know, but it will make me feel better for my own self-esteem. I will not raise my voice or engage in confrontation or argument during our conversations, I will try and keep the moral high ground, and most importantly I will not try to be nasty or mean. I just want what is fair as she wants everything at the moment.

I am starting to wonder whether she is starting to see the grass may not be greener on the other side, though that does not mean for one second she is having second thoughts, no, that decision is the only thing that IS carved in stone. It is because I am starting to see her for what she is and I do not like what I see.

Any views please?