Ok, so I got pretty wound up after the dinner and secret date last week. Now nothing. She's back to nearly no contact, and was quite standoff-ish when I picked up the kids.
It's clear to me that us spending time alone together is the magic that builds on the connection between us. I don't want to pursue, but there just aren't really any opportunities for us to be alone. The baseball games are ok, we're sort of alone, but it doesn't have the intensity we had sitting in that bar just the two of us. Should I eventually ask her out? Should I wait for her to ask me? I'd rather do the latter, as then she's the pursuer, but I don't know if she will. How long should I wait? She did the asking last time though, sort of, so is it my turn? What kind of time frame should I be shooting for? Wait another week or two? I feel kind of pathetic asking all this. If she was just a normal woman I was interested in, I'd know what to do, but as Sandi very LOUDLY pointed out, she is NOT a normal woman. I think time is my friend. I should just bide my time and wait for an opportunity, like I did last time. I have to accept that NOTHING is going to happen fast.
Unfortunately, I think she has plans to meet up with OM at some point soon. I don't really know the details, and I don't want to snoop. Like others have said here, I think I should just treat her like a single woman, see if she wants to spend time with me, and ignore OM.
I have to admit, practically every baby step I've worked toward has been successful.
I wanted her to respect me again. Check. I wanted her to be attracted to me again. Check. I wanted her to start flirting with me. Check. I wanted her to ask me out. Check. I wanted to go out just the two of us and validate that the connection is still there. Check. I wanted to increase physical contact between us. Check. We're always touching each other in non-sexual ways now.
I have a big step in mind that is a real long shot. She's going to take the kids to visit her brother's family at the end of July. We've gone down there many times before, and we always have a great time. I'd love to be invited to go along. Man, that's a long shot. I'll keep doing what I'm doing, and we'll see. That would be a very bold move on her part. I'm not getting my hopes up.
