Picked H up at airport. Predictably awkward and distant (happens every time). He looked way better than I expected...
NO connection between us, very little convo (he was on a plane for 12 hours.
Kids were psyched. I felt a bit like a chauffeur. Listened to some stories about rock star and saw the gift rock star gave h (worth many thousands, mind you we don't have rent).
He had a new item of clothing that a "friend" gave him (spin spin)...
Barely looked in my eyes (spin spin)
Gave me a little gift...chocolate...hmmm...guilty gift? No connection between us. I just said thanks.
Off to dinner together. Weird, no connection. Saw him check me out once or twice.
Dinner, he's having to bully kids into listening to his rock star stories and his self-importance and I'm thinking objectively, if I was out with a guy who spoke like this, there would be no second date and if he was so incapable of taking an interest in my kids rather than trying to impress them, he'd be x'd off my list.
So, I just watched and listened and was friendly and upbeat but not over the top.
Kids said in the car that they want to sleep with him tonight. They asked where he was sleeping and he said he didn't know.
Got home and he gave them multiple gifts. Surprisingly, gave me multiple gifts that he got from a friend (beautiful clothes, yippee). But, weird, kind of inappropriate. I thanked expressively. Still, NO connection.
He got aggravated that he left some work stuff behind...and got grumpy (typical) and went and passed out on the couch just after asking gruffly "you guys have any water here?"
Oh, he asked me once about my work...and he noticed the house was clean. Oh and that I was wearing pants I didn't fit in before.
If I hadn't read SP's post, I might have ended this post with "good grief, I don't want to be married to this man." BUT, the mugga crackin kids make me want to hold off.
Plus, in all fairness, there is a re-entry period when H returns from these trips. Of course, he is leaving again on Thursday for a few days but, there is no settle down and really deal time.
