WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

Situation 6 and 7. If she starts going off again, just say, I am sorry you feel that way. And that's it. Actually for Situation 7, I would have just laid into her and get that weight you have off your chest. How she keeps putting herself up as the victim, yet is the one who is controlling everything. But that's just me.

Thanks for the input Stuck.

Would you suggest that I just hang up after I say "I'm sorry you feel that way"?

I just realized that it's getting late and it's past the time she had called in the past. The "call/text/email" traffic has really dropped off since she said last Sunday that she doesn't want to be my wife anymore (same as what she said in Jan). She had called last nite around 11:30 with a tactical issue. I kept it very business and to the point. I tried to be polite and courteous, but I suspect that she will still find something to take issue with (as Sandi pointed out, nothing I do will be right in her mind).

I know I can't call her. It's crazy since she has said a couple of times over the last couple of weeks that I should call her if I want to.

It doesn't make sense. She's a WAW but in such a non-typical WAW way. Maybe she is starting to be more typical......

I have to put my faith that the DB/DR way is the right way....