One other thing,
consistency is a big key! If you decide to do something you will have to do all you can to keep that going. If you decide to let her run and back off keep on that course, if you change up to much it can throw things off.
She is not thinking about you right now, and I know that hurts! You will have to make the choice as to how and what you want to do...
She will have to find out on her own and deal with what she is doing!
If you can change things about you without telling her your going to do this, just do it. You could see some suprising changes....


Me 40
waw 39
Never formally M
Common law
SD 16
SS 13
Together 9 yrs
bomb 10/2/08
She started dating 11/08
Started P/A 01/09
Contiunes to call R over