I want to ask a question. I was reading some stories and something occured to me. To anyone that wants to answer. We all know how much I have tried to figure out if my xh is WAS or MLC (which I have decided doesnt really matter anyway), and BH and others think he is a WAS and they may be right. BUT I probably should add something to my story. I didnt begin my story here on the boards until my xh and I seperated. I did NOT tell the prior year or so details and I may be leaving important parts out THAT MATTER! NO I am not wanting someone to tell me he is MLC. I just realized I didnt write about what happened before he moved out. I didnt realized alot of people here talk about their h's being confused...stay or go...then eventually they seperate. Well my xh, for a year or so, every time we would argue he would say he wasnt happy and hadnt been in years, he would say that he didnt know if he loved me enough to stay. He would threaten to contact a lawyer several times. The last time, before he left, he did this. He went to bed and I stayed up because the way we left things. I worke up the next morning and said he still felt he wanted a divorce. About 2 hours later, he came into the room I was in and said, "what are you doing?" "Do you want to go eat lunch with me." I just looked at him like "what"??????? Ah, you just said you wanted a divorce and have said so since last night. He said, "well I think we can work it out". I said do you love me and he said, "yes, I PROBABLY love you enough to try."... I could not believe he said PROBABLY. When I called his attention to it, he said I DO love you enough to try. I think he was confused at this point. I just tried to go on and forget about it. He would say things like, "dont worry, I will never leave you", "I could not imagine living without you and son." Then the next time we argued weeks later, he decided he wanted out and divorced and wasnt going to change his mine.
