Well, the poker tournament that my W told me about got canceled on Monday nights because they don't have enough people to play on Monday nights. But there is one tomorrow night that I will be going to.
So... here goes... W invited me to dinner with her and the kids. SO I WENT. And we talked and laughed and spent a good hour and a half enjoying everything. Then she asked if I would come do a seafood boil next sunday since she couldn't this past sunday since she was sick. Then she said she wanted all of us to go to The Great Wolf Lodge for a weekend as a family which is a nice hotel with an indoor water park and other fun things to do for the kids.
Now I know what yall have been saying. Say no to everything. Have something else going on. She acknowledged that I have been busy alot lately and even thanked me for taking the kids last night since she knew I probably had plans. The truth is I didn't. But I let her think I did. When we left dinner I told her I had plans tonite and needed to head out. She told me thats great.
Here is my thing. Other than the frusturating conversation regarding me and her mom, things have really been improving between us. In my opinion, this is huge progress compared to the past 9 months. I haven't had any R talk with her at all. She has even sent me other poker sights with groups that I can join because she knows I like to play. She is starting to lighten up over all. This has to be progress right? And again, she let the D get dismissed among all this. I must be doing something right for her to be starting to change her attitude towards me lately. Maybe its just that she doesn't feel pressure anymore with us being in 2 separate places.
Tonite she even made the kids clean their room and the living room at my apartment when she came by to get their stuff. I was here so I said hi for a moment and then left out the door to go to the poker tournament that was supposed to be happening. I just told them to lock up before they left.
Overall things are changing in some aspect. I'm not saying they are heading towards a R level or anything. But things are starting to turn in some ways with out interactions. She is starting to feel more comfortable and at ease around me again.
I didn't mind coming home tonite for a change. I thought it would be nice to get some sleep tonite. D7 tends to follow me around during the night if I switch where I am sleeping.
Anyways, it is all interesting. But I am forming my own life. And I do love poker. So now I have something to do that I enjoy during the week and it allows me to meet other people as well. That with church and then some time to myself. Things are going ok for the time being.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...