Wanted to thank you for your reply, and for your kind words.
Working on the decision to move or not to move. I think I do have to decide that soon, as the job offer I have in the new place will only stand for so long.
Still, it might be for the best because I was really keeping myself on hold over the last 3 months and maybe the move with help me move forward (not on, but forward). Maybe it will give me the space I need to do for me and him the understanding that I am moving forward.
Its not like I am moving to siberia...he knows where to find me and in some ways, with the point we are at, I would need him to make a real effort to pursue me. Whether its him or anyone else in my life, I am going to need them to be willing to fight for me, for our marriage. I understand that at the present time he doesn't want to becuase he believes it will only bring about more conflict, more hurt. But perhaps if I give time and space, and also work on making the interaction that we do have positive by controling my own behavior and how I contribute to it, maybe some day he will want to fight for us.
Either way, I think it's time for me to focus on me right now.
Thanks again for writing to me. How is your sitch, how is going dark going?
Me 30 H 33 together:10 years married:5 years Separated: 1/23/09 living apart 5 mos and counting "when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR
