Well, in reality she "could" go that long without seeing the kids but she doesnt want to. Big difference.
Its like beating a dead horse - the WAS fails to realize that walking away from a marriage means walking away from being a "full time parent" and seeing their kids each day.
Your W is the one that chose to leave the family unit therefore she chose to not include herself in things like family vacations. Because she made that choice it certainly does not mean the family vacations wont continue, they simply will no longer include her. Again, something the WAS doesnt seem to realize and once they do they pitch a fit and whine they cant go that long w/o their kids. Well, sweetie, that is what divorce is and those sorts of thoughts should have been carefully thought out when she made the decision to walk away. She cant get both and now she is pissed because her fantasty of having it all is being crushed right in front of her face. What she doesnt realize though is *she* is the one crushing it, not you. You and your kids are still a family, she is the one that chose to remove herself from that unit. Why would you and your kids proceed any different to accommodate her choices? If a summer vacation is what the family does then do it - it was her choice not to be a part of the family so what she "cant" do verses what she doesnt "want" to do really isnt your problem now is it?
I have to run to the dentist right now but will check back later. As I have learned, not every message requires an immediate response so sit on this for a while until you can formulate something that will further open the lines of communication and solutions rather than shut them down.
Yeah...I know what you mean! She can go that long without seeing them, but she just doesn't want to!
Yep...makes sense! Now we are both neither full time parents, and neither of us get to see our kids daily!
You make perfect sense...I think she was just so desperate to leave that she couldn't/didn't think about anything else other than that...at least not in depth. Will she ever realize that she is the one crushing it?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
