The DB books were very helpful at the very start. Then the other usual ones - the Five Love Languages, Love as a Way of Life (both by Gary Chapman). The one that helped best is Secrets of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. This helped dissolve a lot of anger because even if you do NOT feel like it at first, when you start to pray for someone you cannot be angry at them. It is a good way of saving yourself from destructive anger. I have an explosive temper and can eat myself up with anger so I needed this. My H started to be more friendly after I started praying good things FOR him.
I read a bunch of books which were NOT helpful at first and compounded my pursuing. Books that talked about writing letters saying how much you loved your spouse etc. Yech!!!
Had an unproductive day because I was still a little knocked out after noticing that he was not wearing his ring. I had to work through that and face the implications. I was emotional this morning but by the end of the day I realised it is not the end of the world. Life goes on, God is still God. His promises do not change. My problems are in his inbox. And he is working 24 hours a day. Being human I get moments of doubt and a little despair, dare I say. But I feel good tonight and hope that tomorrow goes better.
Last night I rearranged our bedroom and made it more my space. I removed a piece of furniture he had and added some candles, throw cushions etc. I feel it sends a little outward message that I am moving on. I like these little chess moves at times!
