First let me say that your last few posts have inspired me to get more active and specific with my goal setting-thanks to you I started the day doing that and it really helped me feel focused and some what in control. So thanks!
Regarding the text your husband sent you, I sympathize with your frustration. When my H found out I was considering moving, he was very concerned that I would leave my job. He was like "you worked so hard to get there, I don't want to see you loose something so important". I explained to him that first of all, leaving the job was a drop in the bucket compared to the collapse of our marriage and I was surprised that he cared more about how my job affects me than his abandoning me would affect me (this was back in the beginning when I gave away my position of feeling blindsided and was definitely angry/clinging in our interactions). Also, I explained that the reason I had done so well at my current company is exactally because I am talented and considered an assest...my move would include at least a lateral job change. Basically I told him, thanks for your concern but when it comes to my job, I have myself together and will be fine.
Its so freakin ridiculous that they are a mess and yet feel the need to second guess our ability to manage our careers...hello, guilty and projecting!
I think if you respond to that text at all, you should say, short and simple, something along the lines of "Thank you for thinking of me but I think at this point, we both have stuff we need to work out for ourselves. That's what I am doing, and the exam prep is going very well". Perhaps even better...very little response at all as in, "Thanks, I've got it under control".
No worries on how fast the boxes get unpacked. Awesome that you've got work events coming up.
Go on girl, you are doing great.
Me 30 H 33 together:10 years married:5 years Separated: 1/23/09 living apart 5 mos and counting "when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR
