Feeling weird...indifferent...calm..she ML to me...we were close. Why did she allow that after me finding out about text friend?
Maybe because she knew that would calm you down? Make her homecoming easier?
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Is it the first?...is this a deal breaker now?
Why does it matter if this is the first or not? Stay in the moment, deal with what you know right now. What happened before now doesn't matter, to be honest, IMHO.
Where are your boundaries? Is EA a dealbreaker? PA a dealbreaker? This is only for you to decide. If the boundaries keep moving, no one can abide by them.
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Do I confront her with what I know and admit to the snooping. Will the exposure change her plans?
If you choose to confront her, be prepared that things may not go as you wish. I have a feeling you're hoping to stop this train that's coming your way, but will it? Won't know until you get into the conversation, go in with no expectations of outcome. No one can predict this.
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I feel like, if there has been nothing physical between them, and that is the plan, I can't let it happen.
You can control this? If she wants it to happen, it will. Maybe not this weekend, but eventually it will. Again, IMHO.
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If there already has been, I need to know now.
Why? What's it going to change? Will it turn into a dealbreaker?
Take care of YOU. Get centered. I think you need to sleep on this. Talk to someone you trust.
