WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

I'm still getting my head around what the "shift" in dynamic that I'm going to create will look like so I would be interested in getting some feedback:

Situation 1 - We have a family outing together (i.e. baseball, soccer games, etc.).

Me: Upbeat, positive, attentive and caring.

Situation 2 - Me/She saying goodnite to the boys

Me: Friendly, upbeat, positive hello and good nite. That's it. No chit chat of from me asking how things are going. If she ask how things are going with me, I would stay positvie and upbeat in my response (i.e. Great or Really good or Hectic as I've got a lot planned, etc.)

Situation 3 - She calls me for something tactical about the kids

Me: Polite and courteous, but strictly business

Situation 4 - She emails/text me about something tactical about the kids

Me: Wait at least 30 minutes to respond, but thank her for the FYI. If there is a specific question (i.e. what time to pick up, etc), I will respond just to the question, but just strictly business, no chit/chat.

Situation 5 - She emails/text me about chit chat/nonsense (i.e. saw this and thought it was funny, saw this movie and it made me cry, saw this on sale and thought you would like it, it's a bad day at work, etc.)

Me: No response unless there is a specific question.

Situation 6 - During a call, she gets emotional relative to our situation

Me: In as loving and caring way as possible say, "Wife, I can't keep doing this. As your husband I want to love and support you but it really hurts to do that since you've decided you no longer want to be my wife"

Situation 7 - If she asks why I'm so cold to her again

Me: In a loving and caring way "Wife, I will treat with respect as the mother of our kids, but it really hurts to do anything more than that since you've decided you no longer want to be my wife."

Any thoughts/comments?