How did you stop all of the checking? Also, I will be the first divorce in my family in several generations. I have no frame of reference for this. How did you tell your family? Thank you so much for replying.
I just had to stop. Say to myself - no more!
I am almost seven months pregnant, and when I check up on him it only stresses me out, makes him mad at me, we fight, I have contractions. I need to take care of my baby and myself.
Also, it goes back to the question I ask myself before I do anything having to do with H - what do I have to gain by doing this? If nothing, I simply don't. I posted on my thread a couple of hours ago about how I was faced with this choice today.
I come from a no-divorce family too. Right now I'm wishing I hadn't told my mom - she will only freak out about it and hold it against H if everything works out in the end. I just went over there and told her, and some of my sisters, and we chatted about it for a while, and it felt good to vent but it doesn't do any good over all. The only thing I can change is me.
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
